I'm in a technical college and today a girl lent me her assignment so I could go down and photocopy it. I told her I would only be a few minutes, and she said that was fine, "not to worry about it". Stupid me thought she didn't need it for a while, and I dawdled and spent some time conversing with a lady from another class, and went back to our class about 20 minutes later. I didn't think much of it, until I met the girl as I climbed the stairs, and I realized she was really mad. "Where the *Expletive* were you?" she yelled at me. "I was in class without my assignment and you were gone for 20 minutes- 20 minutes of my class time without having my assignment handy! You're so selfish!"
"Sorry..." was all I could manage, and she said, "Sorry doesn't cut it! Don't ever ask me to lend you my stuff again!"
I know I deserved to have her get mad at me, but this has never happened to me before, a fellow student blowing up at me, because I'm usually not like this. The INFP inside me feels really hurt and doesn't know how to fix this situation. I even went home early because I would have to see this girl in class and I didn't want to deal with it. Help me, somebody?
To allevitae the situation, you have to be the one who initates the mending process. First off say you are sorry. You borrowed something and, for whatever reason, returned it beyond her expected time frame. Let her know how awful you feel, and that you understand how upset she got and why. This will allow her to see that you are indeed a good person, and had no harmful intent. If she chooses not to forgive you, restate that you are sorry, and walk away. At that point you have every right to just let it go without any guilt.
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